Making love is a deeply intimate and sensual experience. It’s a critical part of any strong and lasting relationship, but unfortunately it tends to get overlooked, while sex gets a lot of attention, often in a shaming kind of way. As a result, this crucial aspect of intimacy is misunderstood and confused, leaving the unifying, healing, restorative, and yes, deeply pleasurable experience of love making just out of reach.
The main difference between having sex and making love is that people who make love are generally in a committed relationship, while those who just have sex might not be in any kind of committed relationship. The other major difference is that when people are making love, they usually want to fulfill their emotional needs as well as their physical ones. In addition, they may also be more concerned about having a spiritual connection to their partner than just the sexual gratification.
One of the best ways to tell if you and your partner are making love is by looking at their hands. The cold hands of someone who is merely interested in getting orgasm are likely to grip tightly to your boobs and neck, but the warm hands of those who are really into you will move around your body and embrace it with passion. They might even moan in a deep voice that seems to come out of their gut rather than their throat.
In addition, if they are making love, they will most likely want to spoon or talk to each other while they are in the bedroom. They will talk about how much they enjoy each other and how amazing the experience is. They may even shed tears after the fact because they feel so good together. They are not just interested in sex for its own sake, but they care about the intimacy that comes with it and want to spend time sharing feelings and focusing on what brings them pleasure.
Finally, you can tell if you are making love if your man treats you with respect and honors you. They will not talk about their exes or complain about other women while you are making love. In addition, they will not look at other women while you are in the bedroom with them. In fact, they will probably not even look at other people while you are out in public.
However, it is important to remember that if you are in a relationship that is under stress outside the bedroom, that will most definitely influence what happens inside of it. You cannot expect to make love with your partner if you are fighting or resentful outside of the bedroom. You can also not expect to make love with a friend-with-benefits. You should only consider this with a partner that you are seriously considering as your long-term spouse. Otherwise, you are just having sex with them for your own selfish reasons.