When you’re making love, your sexual energy is channeled toward satisfying a partner’s sexual needs. It requires great communication, as you’ll want to know what parts of your partner’s body they enjoy and don’t. You may also want to try out new positions and use the erotic energy of touch to create feelings of arousal and connection. And there’s no better way to spice things up than with some dirty talk.
Making love requires a level of tenderness that isn’t always present during sex. Even if you’re having kinky sex, your desire to please will still be different than a man who only wants penetration. Making love involves considering your partner’s desires (and expressing them) as well as your own, and it makes for an intimate and sensual experience.
The lights are dimmed, soft music is playing, and you’re dressed in sexy lingerie. You’ve been waiting for this moment all day. This is your time to make love, and you’re gonna show him what you can do. You’ve taken the time to wash up and put on a deodorant spray, spritz your favorite perfume, and maybe even brushed your teeth with a minty fresh toothpaste. You’re ready to turn on the romantic vibes and make your partner feel like you can’t take your eyes off them.
A man who loves you will respect your boundaries and will stop immediately if you tell him to. This is a sign that he cares about you and your feelings, and doesn’t want to go any further than what you want or need. If he goes off to sleep or does something else with his phone right after sex, he’s probably only there to satisfy his sexual appetite.
While you’re making love, make sure to pay attention to how your partner responds to each touch and kiss. If he smiles, blushes, or gasps at your advances, you’re doing it right. If he holds you close and whispers sweet nothings in your ear, that’s another huge plus.
As you continue to make love, slow down and savor each touch. Each minute you spend entangled in romantic embrace is a minute you’re building trust and intimacy with your partner. And each touch is a moment of pleasure you’re bringing to your partner.
Ultimately, you don’t need to be in love to make love, but it certainly helps. Especially when you both set out to have the perfect night and are on the same page. Just be sure to discuss your expectations ahead of time and to be honest about what’s most important to you both. If you’re on different pages, that could make for a very uncomfortable and unpleasant experience.