When most people say’making love,’ what they really mean is sexually intimate, or’sex with someone that you’re in love with.’ However, this definition has been severely diluted by mainstream sexual culture, and what is commonly viewed as ‘lovemaking’ has been warped into a blanket term for any sexual activity. It has also become associated with anything that doesn’t involve vaginal intercourse (e.g., oral sex). The term, however, goes further than this, and covers any sexual activity, regardless of gender or orientation.
Sexual intimacy is actually a unique set of feelings that develop when two people have a romantic relationship or interest in each other. This intimacy is much more than just physical attraction; it is an intense connection that involves emotional bonding, a sense of being connected to another person beyond the body. In fact, some psychoanalysts believe that all love is relational in nature, since all human beings connect with others through feelings of friendship, caring, and similar emotions. As such, making love does not just involve physical intimacy; it can also involve emotional intimacy.
The key to experiencing this kind of feeling is understanding that you, and only you, are the one experiencing these feelings. In fact, most people do not even realize how much they’re in love until one another confirms it with their own feelings. Once this is realized, the experience becomes far less daunting and emotional. Instead of viewing the physical experience as something negative, one can view it as a natural extension of one’s own emotional needs.
Physical intimacy, when used correctly, can create this intense emotional connection. However, to create this intense connection, both partners need to be in tune with their own emotional states. By paying attention to one another’s emotional states during this physical experience, couples can better understand how to make love. This will also allow them to recognize each other’s subtle signals and responses. This makes them more open to their partner’s needs and feelings.
For example, couples who have been together for one week often find themselves deeply connected and drawn into one another on a profound level. This can be a powerful experience for them, but it can also result in a lack of physical intimacy. After all, making love is a relationship based on communication, which means that the couple must remain on the same page as far as their emotional needs are concerned. If one of them has been emotionally distant from their partner for a significant amount of time, they may have difficulty finding comfort in their other half after one week. But if they make love with one another on a nightly basis, they quickly feel reconnected to their partner and drawn back to their emotional states.
The key to successful foreplay is being sensitive to the signals your partner is sending. If you focus solely on intercourse, you run the risk of alienating your lover because you aren’t paying attention to their needs. The best thing to do is to plan foreplay and intercourse, to take care of yourselves and to let your partner know when it’s time to move into the realm of making love. The physical part is just as important as emotional satisfaction, but you can’t neglect the importance of letting your partner know that you love them and that they mean so much to you.
