Making love is a form of physical intimacy that brings people closer together. It also involves an emotional connection that is deeper than just physical pleasure. The undercurrent of judgement surrounding sex and love-making leaves this critical part of every healthy relationship often out of reach for couples. This can cause problems that are more serious than simply a lack of pleasure.
Many couples have a different idea of what makes for a romantic night, and sex isn’t always about kissing, cuddling or touching. Some people like to have a little foreplay before sex while others prefer to jump right in. Either way, it’s important to communicate with your partner about what you want and need. The best way to do this is by talking about sex outside the bedroom. Having regular conversations about sexual desires and fantasies can set the mood for a more intimate sex experience in the bedroom.
A man who knows how to make love would be considerate of your needs before and after sex. He would not try to pressure you into crossing your boundaries or force you to do something that made you uncomfortable. He would take his time to caress you, he would hold you in his arms and would make sure to use soft words and gentle touches. He would talk about your day and listen to your stories and he would not go too fast. He would know when to slow down and when to speed up. He would maintain eye contact throughout the act and would not look away from you. He would look you in the eyes and smile at you afterwards. He would even make you tea or something else to show how much he appreciated and valued your presence.
Some men and women struggle with intimacy, believing that their partner is the problem. They are often jealous of their partners’ wild sexual escapades and they may have difficulty understanding why they can’t get what they want from their relationship. These couples need to learn the difference between sex and lovemaking so they can improve their relationships and find joy in them.
Love making takes a lot of work. It requires a great deal of patience and kindness to meet each other’s needs. It’s the kind of intimacy that enables couples to bond over everything from miscarriages to cancer treatments. It’s the kind of intimacy that can keep a couple together through thick and thin, and it is more beneficial than just having sex alone.
It’s common for men and women to have a relationship with someone who makes them happy physically but their marriage or partnership isn’t healthy. If you want to make sex and lovemaking a key element of your relationship, it’s important to work on it outside the bedroom by building trust and showing affection. Download Relish to access expert relationship coaches, therapist approved quizzes and more – free for a week!
