If you’re in a committed relationship, sex is an integral part of your intimate connection. However, sex and making love are not the same thing. Understanding the differences between these two facets of human sexuality will help you to better understand your partner’s emotional and physical expressions.
While having sex is definitely an act of affection and can be considered romantic, it is not necessarily “making love.” Making love involves the complete involvement of all of one’s senses, while having sex focuses solely on satisfying sexual urges.
During making love, the partners engage in pre-sex activities, such as touching, cuddling, and kissing. This foreplay will often lead to arousal and a deeper emotional bond between the couple. In addition, making love usually requires a greater level of effort than simply engaging in sexual activity. For example, the lights are typically dimmed, soft music is playing, and a few drops of perfume might be sprinkled on skin to enhance the mood. Moreover, the couple may spend a significant amount of time talking about their feelings and discussing how they can make love more enjoyable for both parties.
When a man is making love to you, he will maintain eye contact with you throughout the entire experience. This will demonstrate his desire to connect with you on a deep emotional level, not just to satisfy his sexual desires. He will also speak to you in loving, tender tones during sex and he will gently caress and touch your body as he makes love to you. He will also give you lots of kisses before, during, and after sex as a way to show his love and affection.
A woman who is being made love to will feel a sense of transcendence during sex. This is what Freud referred to as “the little death,” as the individual is pulled into an intense experience of self-loss and almost ceases to exist in that moment. In this state of orgasm, a woman feels like she is not just Jane or Jim but like she is another person entirely.
In order for a man to make love to a woman, he must be in love with her as well. However, it is not uncommon for people to be in love with someone and not be able or willing to express it physically. Nevertheless, it is important for couples to communicate about their emotions and their desires in order to grow closer together.
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