If you’re in a new relationship, you may be excited about the prospect of making love with your partner. After all, you’ve bonded with them in other ways—talking about your day, flirting with each other, and showing affection for one another—and making love is a way to strengthen that bond with physical intimacy. But how do you know if your partner is truly ready to make love? If you’re looking for signs that your boyfriend is committed to making love with you, there are some key things to watch out for.
He is respectful of your boundaries.
If your man listens to you when you talk about how much you love him and respects your boundaries, it’s a sign that he is a committed lover who will never push you beyond what you want from sex or during the act itself. If he is willing to go slow, and take his time and explore different areas of your body—grinding, stroking, kissing and caressing—it’s a sign that he wants to enjoy making love with you just as much as you do.
He loves and cherishes you.
A good lover is someone who makes you feel loved and safe in the bedroom. He’ll talk to you while you’re both in bed, and he’ll look into your eyes. He’ll also be respectful of your sexual preferences. For example, if you say that you prefer to grind your partner instead of thrust them, he’ll follow suit. He’ll also respect your wishes in terms of how hard you want to be touched, or if you have any general areas that are more sensitive than others.
He takes the time to prepare for sex.
Sex is often about convenience — it’s something that happens naturally when you’re attracted to each other, and it feels good. It doesn’t have to be a big deal, and you might not even make an effort to make it special or sweet. Making love, on the other hand, involves a lot of preparation and consideration. Perhaps there are candles or sexy lingerie involved, and you might be wined and dined before the moment arrives.
In other words, it’s about putting in the work to make an experience that is meaningful and memorable. So, if your guy is putting in the work to prepare for sex with you (and not just looking at you as a source of pleasure), that’s a great sign that he is committed to your happiness and wants to make love to you in a way that will bring you closer together. After all, this is the reason you’re in a relationship, and it should be reflected in your physical experience with each other. That’s how you make love last.