Getting intimate with your partner is exhilarating, intense, and fun. But how do you take your relationship to the next level and turn sex into making love? There are many ways to cultivate a deeper connection in the bedroom, and it all starts with knowing what makes lovemaking so special.
Some people confuse having sex with making love, especially when they’ve had experiences that involve the latter without romantic feelings attached – whether it’s a drunken hookup or sex with a ‘friend with benefits.’ Ultimately, the difference between these two experiences has little to do with pleasure and everything to do with sharing your feelings through physical touch.
A man who enjoys lovemaking isn’t afraid to bring you to the brink of orgasm and then pull back. This technique, known as edging, is a sign that he’s deeply enjoying your arousal. He’s not just bringing you to the edge of pleasure, but he’s also keeping you there for a long time so that the experience feels even more intense and memorable.
He’ll shower you with compliments during intimate moments – telling you how beautiful, desirable, and loved you are. This not only arouses you, but it bolsters your self-esteem and reinforces your bond with him. He’ll also use a variety of techniques to keep your senses stimulated. This may include alternating between slow and fast movements or switching up positions from missionary to cowgirl to doggy style.
When he’s not talking, he’ll make eye contact with you and try to calm your anxieties about the intimacy. He’ll also be open about what turns him on during this intimate time, and he’ll share his thoughts and feelings freely with you. This is a clear sign that he cares about you and your well-being.
After sex, he’ll look at you and give you a loving, satisfied smile. He’ll want to kiss you more and cuddle, a clear indication that he enjoyed the experience and wants it again. Unlike sex that’s just for fun, real lovemaking has a lasting impact on the connection between you and him.
In addition to these obvious signs, he’ll likely tell you how much he enjoys making love with you, and he’ll probably ask you what your needs and desires are in bed so that the experience is as enjoyable for him as possible. He’ll be respectful, thoughtful, and receptive to your feedback, and his body language will reflect that as he makes you feel secure and comfortable in his arms. This is how he’ll show you how much he loves you and how important your relationship is to him. It’s a powerful statement that’s made all the more powerful because he has proven to you that he really means it. So listen to him and trust his judgement, and you’ll be able to experience true romance in the bedroom. And who knows, after a while, you might just fall in love with him. —This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan and has been updated.
