If you’re a woman, there are few things more romantic than making love with your partner. It’s not something that comes naturally to most of us, though. It takes a lot of planning and attention to detail, and a special setting (like a romantic bedroom) can make it even more sensual and intimate. It’s also important to communicate what you want and be able to recognize when your man is putting the effort in to create an experience that will give you both pleasure.
One of the most common ways we see this is when a man doesn’t just look at you while you’re having sex, but actually looks into your eyes. This shows that he cares about you as a person and is not just using you as a sexual object. He may also talk to you during sex and tell you how much he loves you. He might whisper sweet nothings into your ear or kiss your neck and thigh during the act. He might even give you multiple orgasms or make you laugh during sex.
Another sign he’s trying to make love is when he strokes your body with his hands. Stroking is a very sensual action, especially when done with a lubricant. Stroke different parts of his body with your hand—like the bottom of his penis or his belly button—to add more pleasure to the act. Or, use your fingers to caress his erection and move up to the head.
During sex, you’ll often hear people compare sex to making love and say that making love is better. While it’s true that making love is more of an emotional and spiritual experience than sex, sex is also very sexual and can be just as rewarding as a good making-love session. It’s just that a good sex session can be more goal-oriented and short-term than an emotional, loving making-love connection.
If your partner wants to be in love with you, they should be willing to make a little extra effort in bed. Creating a mood, lighting candles and burning scented oils, and washing up in a sensual way are all easy and quick things you can do to set the stage. You can even try slowing down the pace of sex so that it’s longer and more luxurious, or you can add extra touches like using the horny word you usually reserve for your best friends or ex-partners. Just be careful that you don’t get too cocky or aggressive. You don’t want to ruin the experience for yourself or your partner! You can always have a good sex session in a less intimate environment if you really need to meet your biological needs.