If you’re a sexually active person in a relationship, it’s likely that at some point in your life, you have wondered whether or not you are making love to the one who you are with. Some people might confuse the term ‘making love’ with having sex, and it’s true that both have their place in your sexual relationship, but they are definitely two separate things.
While sex is an incredible feeling and often an indication of a healthy relationship, love making is the act of deep emotional connection and bonding that takes your relationship to the next level. It is a process that is built with tenderness (even though it can be rough too!) and consideration of your partner’s needs in addition to your own, which makes it far more intimate than simply sex.
When you think of sex, you probably envision moments of lustful passion between a couple in a dark bedroom with candles and sexy lingerie. However, when you think of love making, you may envision more gentle kissing, stroking the back of their neck, and slow, deliberate body movements that are rhythmic and sensual. It can also include things like moaning together and playing with your hair or tongue.
Having sex can be fun, but it is often rushed and basic, which is why some people wonder if they are just ‘fucking’. It can also be a way of showing your physical attraction to someone rather than a deeper connection. Making love is a deeper experience that is more about building a closeness with the one you are with emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
Some men might not be aware of how to make love, or they might simply not care. If you’re with a man who doesn’t care about this aspect of the relationship, it will likely be difficult to connect on this deeper level, and the relationship may eventually come to an end. However, a man who knows how to make love will want to connect with you on this level and will take the time to consider what you enjoy and need from him in bed.
You can also tell if your man is making love by how attentive he is during sex. He will listen to you, and ask if there is anything that you would like him to do differently. He will talk about how much you mean to him and say how much he loves you, which is a great sign of him caring and expressing his emotions during sex.
To make love with your partner, set the scene by dimming the lights, lighting a scented candle, and cleaning up a bit beforehand. You can also use soft music to create a more sensual and intimate atmosphere. Dab on a little perfume and get dressed in your best lingerie to add to the ambiance. Then, when you are ready to begin, make sure the space is private and that there are no interruptions from kids or roommates.
